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 OK, so a lot has happened.


Some really wonderful, and as life goes, some awful.

The Podiatrist and his family have moved to my town.  And bought a house a block away.  Nuts.

Do I love it, yes.  There is a sweet little granddaughter to watch grow and play, a very sweet one at that.

The Dr. Pod is working through his position and learning a lot.  the house is a work in progress and there are some pretty significant challenges.  Mostly water related, oddly.  Water in basement(typical of an old house), leaking skylights in attic(always problematic) and 2nd floor ac unit not processing water and then there is the ruined ceiling as a result.  These problems are not insurmountable, just annoying and expensive to solve.  I have a lovely daughter inlaw, who I love dearly.  She is a whirling dervish.  Working, baby, house manager.  and she does it all with such ease. Seemingly. 

Now for the awful, the Mr has two grown children from a previous marriage.  They are 13 and 14 yrs older than Dr. Pod.  Many dramas have taken place over our 37 yr marriage and we thought we were finally going to enjoy their adulthood and families.

Not to be.  After many unpleasant encounters and unhealthy communication events, the oldest reached out to his father and said awful things, all of which are the result of our "perfect" life with Dr. Pod.  And to end the call told his father that everything his sister had told him was true.  Yet again we found ourselves trying to figure out what that was and how to proceed.  No response to text(seemingly the only acceptable means of contact) inquiries.  An "uninvited" letter for a HS grad party.  Sigh                    And now the separation and divorce of the oldest and his wife of ten years.

So so sad.  We struggle to come to terms with this unfortunate new reality.  No communication from either of the "bigs".  Its painful and yet somehow the lack of hateful language and drama is a relief.         We do occasionally speak with the ex wife.  And miss all the grandchildren, who of course are not         available to us. the ex-wife is interested in getting together, but we fear it will stir up problems.  I will use this blog to talk through the pain and process of acceptance of this, but not sure I can work it out alone.  Seeking some counseling to help with some coping skills.

Till next time

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